2018
3
Dec
20:49

sequelisms

   Posted by: arcanai   in the sequel

the sequel amuses me to no end with what comes out of his mouth. for halloween, i told him as we walked up to each house to say “trick or treat”. i finally got him to say it but he wouldn’t give up his own tagline: “trick or treat i want some!” (one run-on sentence). i couldn’t help laugh even though it came off rather rude. he did at least say “thank you” of his own accord.

for weeks, he’s been on a “you make me feel sad” kick. i’m not even sure where he got this from but the really funny part is his use… he says it when i get onto him to do something like eat or drink or brush his teeth.

his answer to every “why?” is “because i like it.” why did you take your shoes off? because i like it. why is your shirt wet? because i like it. why is there food in your ear? because i like it. it’s the end-all answer.

of course, “all by myself” and “i’m big boy” or “i’m a big man” are hugely popular as well. he is stubbornly independent and over-confident. the turkey has a lot of quit; the sequel doesn’t know the meaning of quit.

2018
21
Oct
11:22

Four

   Posted by: arcanai   in heartache

it’s been four years since i felt your heart stop beating. four years since i kissed you goodbye for the last time. four years worth of tears and laughs and all the feels in between. you’ve missed so much. the turkey asks about you and loves looking at pictures of you. the sequel… oh my goodness, he’s a character! you would get such a kick out of him. i wish you had met him. i give him a kiss on the forehead from you every night but i don’t know if he’ll ever be able to connect. at least the turkey has pictures and videos of you holding him; he knows how much you loved him. for the sequel, you’re just an abstract. it breaks my heart all the time. as if i don’t think of you enough this time of year, you were with me constantly the last week and a half. we were just barely missed by a major hurricane. while we sat, safely evacuated, watching the coverage all i could think is how you would be having a heart attack over it. what i wouldn’t have given to hear your frantic phone calls. it’s been too long, daddy. i love and miss you.

2018
10
Oct
20:59

take it to the Lord in prayer

   Posted by: arcanai   in the turkey

at lunch, the turkey asked his grandmother if she was having a good day. she said she wasn’t because her leg was hurting her. the turkey’s response was to bow his head and say a prayer for his grandmother. i’m so glad i was able to witness such a beautiful moment.

i almost missed the whole exchange because i was so absorbed in twc’s coverage of the hurricane barreling down on our home. a slight shift to the east at the last minute spared us from the brunt of the storm’s damage. we were so fortunate but i’m heartsick for all of those who ended up in those crosshairs that we thought were trained on us.

2018
7
Oct
14:10

retirement

   Posted by: arcanai   in Nuthin' Special

i just shut down my work pc for the last time. i’ll mail it in later this week. i’m astounded at how difficult this has been for me. i’ve been with this company for 15 years. i’ve been working for financial gain for 28 years. i’ve always felt financially independent but now i’ll be contributing nothing to our household income. my entire worth is going to be measured by whether i can make two little boys mind and learn. it’s very scary. in addition to being the lowest pay job i’ve ever had, it’s also the most important. i pray that i don’t fail.

2018
6
Oct
21:35

gentleman’s choice

   Posted by: arcanai   in the turkey

on monday, friends we haven’t seen in a very long time came over to swim. it was the girl the turkey plans to marry and her older sister. since we haven’t seen much of them this year, this was the first time he filled her and her mommy in on his plans to wed her. her mom was as amused as we were. this morning, we ran into them again at the monthly hd kids workshop and we had a great time together. this evening, i received a voicemail from the mom saying that her girls were arguing over who was going to marry my turkey. apparently, the younger girl settled the argument by saying “well turkey gets to decide and he chose me!” verily, i am amused.

i wonder if i should tell them all that i already picked my best friend’s little girl to be my future daughter-in-law when i first got pregnant with him.

2018
24
Sep
22:33

fishes

   Posted by: arcanai   in the sequel, the turkey

we have had some major breakthroughs on the swimming front over the last month. the turkey is now swimming under the water like a little fish. he’s swimming all around the steps and out-and-back between us and the steps for a good 10-15 feet. today, for the first time, he started popping up to take a breath of air in the middle of his swimming. he’ll be going the whole distance before we know it.

the sequel was doing great but has become more cautious in the last few weeks which has led to a bit of a regression. today, however, he grabbed the kickboard and figured out how to balance himself on it and kick around all by himself. he’ll swim between us and the steps up to 5 feet but he’s not as eager about it as he used to be.

2018
23
Sep
21:16

girls, girls, girls

   Posted by: arcanai   in the turkey

the turkey talks a lot about his future as a family man. he tells us all about his plans of marrying charlotte, how they’re going to have a house far away, how they’ll sleep in the same bedroom, how they’re going to have twenty… yes, TWENTY, “itty-bitties,” how he’s going to talk to her belly and the itty-bitties will kick his face. we think it’s hilarious listening to all of his plans (and hope it’s normal).

today, i asked him if his friend hannah was in sunday school and he proceeded to tell us that she was and that he sat next to her because she’s his 3rd girlfriend. when i inquired about his others, his response was “ms kyla is my oneth girlfriend, my twoth girlfriend is kaitlin, hannah is my third, and my fifth girlfriend is ms robin.”

so many things to be amused by here… the fact that he has a list, his creative numbering even though he knows ordinal numbers just fine, that he skipped four, that #3 and #5 are daughter and mother, that his frequently projected wife didn’t make the list. we couldn’t stop laughing.

2018
1
Sep
13:31

all i want for Christmas…

   Posted by: arcanai   in the sequel

we were having a great time playing at the kiddie park area of the local aquatic center for the first time this morning. unfortunately, the sequel missed a step one of his times climbing up and down the slides and hit his mouth. at first, i thought he just caught the bottom of his chin and it was no big deal. unfortunately, when i sat him down to inspect him more thoroughly, i found that he had knocked his lower front teeth loose too. hard to tell the extent but one of them is sticking further forward and twisted to the side a bit now. i feel so badly. when we got home, i made him a nice soft lunch but it still hurt him and he kept asking me every few bites to kiss his teeth. it broke my heart… my kisses are supposed to make all the hurt stop and he just kept looking at me like “why isn’t it working, momma?” i am praying that he’ll have the restraint to stop touching and tonguing at them so that maybe they can re-seat themselves and it’ll all be fine. we’ll baby his poor mouth for the holiday weekend and keep a close watch and evaluate on tuesday whether he needs to see a dentist.

2018
24
Aug
13:18

for quits

   Posted by: arcanai   in Nuthin' Special

i quit my job today. in a month or so, i’ll be a full-time sahm. i am excited and terrified… we’re making a big sacrifice so i hope that i don’t fail. granted, i’ve been a full-time sahm AND a full-time employee for four years so this should be much easier but i’m still anxious to do it right.

2018
14
Aug
13:21

snuggle finger

   Posted by: arcanai   in the sequel

i was snuggling with the sequel, who is a big thumb-sucker, this morning. i went to take his night shirt off to start getting ready for the day and when i took his left hand to take the sleeve off, he shouted “no, no, no! snuggle finger!” i laughed and laughed. he’s never used that term before and it was just too adorable.

2018
10
Aug
20:16

Underwater

   Posted by: arcanai   in the sequel, the turkey

The boys have been making giant strides in the pool this week. They are both diving diving under to get pool toys, first couple steps for the sequel and up to 3.5 feet for the turkey.  This is huge for the turkey who has a generally cautious personality.  He’s also started swimming back and forth across the steps.  The sequel,  on the other hand,  is completely fearless. He’ll jump into the deep and just float under the surface staring up at us with complete trust that we’ll get him.

2018
7
Aug
21:09

that old joke

   Posted by: arcanai   in feelin bad

i’m officially old. in the elevator today, i had a guy ask me if my purple hair was a mid-life crisis. so apparently my colorful hair that brings me so much joy makes me look like a joke. *sigh* i know it was just one random stranger but, seriously, it took a five-second exchange to deflate my whole self-esteem. and that, folks, is why you shouldn’t talk to strangers. jerk.

2018
3
Aug
8:58

worship

   Posted by: arcanai   in the sequel, the turkey

over the last few weeks, the boys’ favorite play has been “worship service.” they have lego pieces they’ve declared to be microphones (although we accidentally left those in AL this week so we’ve had to make new ones) and they get up on the trampoline, plug in their mics, and ask if we’re all ready for the service. then they joyfully jump up and down while singing (read: shouting) “power in the name of jesus” or “what a beautiful name it is.” they raise their hands and get all into it. the turkey has even started taking a break between songs to bow his head and say a prayer.

every time i feel like we’re completely failing at this parenting stuff, they do something to make me think we can’t be messing up too badly.

2018
1
Aug
8:48

two wheels

   Posted by: arcanai   in the sequel

the sequel made the move from three to two wheels on his balance bike this weekend and he’s doing great. he can already coast again!

we want to get the turkey a real bike for his birthday but we still have to push him to ride his trike where he can practice pedaling. he’s so fast and good on his balance bike, he just doesn’t want to move on!

2018
12
Jun
19:47

movement

   Posted by: arcanai   in the sequel, the turkey

the turkey really pedaled his tricycle for the first time today. he had a major meltdown about it but he did it and he was able to pedal himself around for quite a while before we finally gave into the tantrum and let him go back to his balance bike. he might not have been too happy about it but hubby and i were very excited and encouraging. if he can get the pedaling piece down, i think he’ll be ready for a real big boy bike.

meanwhile, the sequel decided this week that he’s a bike-rider too. he’s been riding his little mini balance trike all over the place. he’s turning and steering and doing so great. he also started driving brother’s cozy coupe car today. he’s been able to make it go backward for a while now but today was the first time he was able to flinstone it forward. these boys are growing so fast!